Self Reminder

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I have downloaded this video from somewhere (I forgot the web) few months ago. Incidentally, Morteza played this video and I think it is important for me to spread it out.

 The video is trying to remind us how to engage more with other. In fact we need to read this also https://shbaer01.wordpress.com/social-media-making-people-anti-social/.

 The points are:
  1. The new technology and social media have changed us. You may conclude by your own whether they changed you the better or not.
  2. Be really present when you mingle to anybody whoever you talk.
  3. Follow these following tips to make you really engaged (adapted from Brian Harke - the Dean of  University of Southern California):
  • Turn off your phone in job interviews and meetings. Don't pull it out, check it or allow it to vibrate or ring during the interview. 
  • Don't put your phone (or elbows) on the table. If your phone is in sight, you are likely to check it.
  • Pay attention to whomever is speaking. Don't text or surf the Internet. It is rude and will be perceived that way. 
  • Don't think you can hide the fact that you are texting or surfing the Internet. It is obvious to everyone around you.
  • Don't ever post or email anything that wouldn't make your mom proud if she saw it printed on the front page of your local newspaper.
  • Corollary: Once you put it out on the Internet, it's there forever. Don't live to regret what you've posted. 
  •  Take the call outside. No one wants to hear your conversation.
  •  Get your head out of the web. You need to spend face-to-face time with people. You don't gain social skills by hiding behind a keyboard.
  • OMG, BTW don't use text shortcuts when speaking to others. You take the risk of sounding like an idiot.
  • Get out of the mindset that you need to respond to texts and emails right away. There is rarely anything so urgent that you have to reply the moment you receive a message. Slow the cycle down. If you do so, you'll probably find your response will be more thoughtful. 
  • Don't get upset if you don't hear back from someone you're trying to reach right away. Don't call and call, or continue to re-text, or email. It is rude.
  • Consider the time of day when you send text messages. Don't wake people up by having their phone chime in the middle of the night.
  • Never text, email, or call if you have been out partying. It is very easy to send messages you'll regret and too often they wind up being sent to the wrong person. 
  • Turn off your phone from time to time and relax. I bet you will find this the hardest tip of all. I have.     

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