New Life

After getting married for two months ago, I haven't written at all about what's happening in my own life until today.

People said that when you've got married, you are going to start new life, atmosphere and the most important you've got new friend who ll stand beside you all day and till the rest of your life. Insha Allah. 

That is everybody's wishes and that is going to be an eternal happiness, I believe. 

Well, may some people asked for.  What will be happened having new life?  I only can say that whatever happens, be grateful to God.

Mercy and love always become the blossom at home when you find your husband keep smile when he eats and tastes your food, when he goes home and find you look like fresh and smell good. The snack are available and always well prepared anytime he needs your help. 

I haven't been experienced in married life, but I only wanna share that being a wife is a new role that has a lot of worthwhile meaning. 

I have just realized that simple things can create a huge love and intimacy between two spouses. But I suppose we need to remember that a relationship between two spouses is like a garden.

 If it's to thrive, it must be watered regularly, with "weather hazards" taken into account, such as any unpredictable storm. New seeds must be sown, and weeds must be pulled out (Gray).


Here some advice to go:

• Choose to love your partner. Remember that it's Allah Who makes the "love and mercy happen between the husband and the wife.
• Seek Allah's help and ask Him to make that "chemistry" happen. Also, open your heart and give your partner the benefit of doubt; stand in your partner's shoes and try to see things from his or her perspective
• Look at how you may have changed as well after marriage
• You will not be able to actually change someone. All you can do is provide a different and favorable environment for your partner to want to change.
• Express with respect. Use "I-messages": "I" feel and "I" think, not "you" did such and such.
• Invest in this family. Paradise is worth your best effort. A little whisper in the wife's ear is, "Allah made one important mission in this life which is to make this family happy." The motive is wonderful. The Prophet said,

The Prophet said, "Nothing is better for those in love than marriage."

Eventually we realize that our partner is not as perfect as we thought and that we have to work on our relationship. Plants need to be watered even more frequently under a hot sun; this is how the relationship between a husband and a wife should be enriched when it is no longer easy to give or to get love. Therefore, always remember Prophet Muhammad's advice:

Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) as saying: A believing man [husband] should not hate a believing woman [his wife]; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another. (Sahih Muslim. Book 8, Number 3469)

"If a woman prayed the five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor, and obeyed her husband, then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): Enter Paradise from any of its (eight) doors". (Ibn Hibban)